[ tseng doesn't respond to that first part, if only because he doesn't know how to articulate i may be a killer, but i'm not a rapist. ]
Someone who ignores safe words or gestures, or who violates agreed-upon boundaries. Discussing expectations is important, especially early in a dynamic, and neither party can be unilateral in decisions about rules and punishments. A certain amount of trust is foundational, and anyone who willfully violates that trust is a bad dominant.
[He's quiet a while, no response forthcoming, though his "last seen at" timestamp never appears so it's also obvious he hasn't set the message down or tabbed away, just lingering over the conversation at hand.]
So it's a business relationship. Contractual? Verbal or otherwise.
[ back in the day when tseng had enough time for extracurriculars, that is.
for a moment, tseng just looks at the input field. he wants to ask why rufus wants to know—is it an intellectual curiosity, or is he considering trying it out himself? and if the latter, would be come to tseng or would he prefer a dom that he doesn't know so well?
the idea of letting rufus submit to him sits strangely, but so does the idea of letting rufus submit to someone else.
eventually: ]
It is an expansive topic, but I believe we've covered the key basics. If you have any other questions, I will answer them to the best of my ability.
[Well. That question just hit him like a sack of bricks to the face. And that means he is now faced with a very significant question, that being: does he actually want the answers he's decided to solicit, and whatever potentially useful information that might come of it — or is he a coward.]
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Tell me the red flags of a bad dominant.
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Someone who ignores safe words or gestures, or who violates agreed-upon boundaries. Discussing expectations is important, especially early in a dynamic, and neither party can be unilateral in decisions about rules and punishments. A certain amount of trust is foundational, and anyone who willfully violates that trust is a bad dominant.
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So it's a business relationship. Contractual? Verbal or otherwise.
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Is there anything more I should be aware of? On this topic.
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[ back in the day when tseng had enough time for extracurriculars, that is.
for a moment, tseng just looks at the input field. he wants to ask why rufus wants to know—is it an intellectual curiosity, or is he considering trying it out himself? and if the latter, would be come to tseng or would he prefer a dom that he doesn't know so well?
the idea of letting rufus submit to him sits strangely, but so does the idea of letting rufus submit to someone else.
eventually: ]
It is an expansive topic, but I believe we've covered the key basics. If you have any other questions, I will answer them to the best of my ability.
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It doesn't have to be immediate. Take whatever time you need to be comprehensive.
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In what role, sir?
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Both.
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[ or... does rufus want a more hands-on... evaluation? ]
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No. Just your impressions based on prior knowledge.
I'm not concerned with accuracy so much as perspective.
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There's one more thing. It's regarding the resort's most recent game.
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I hope you escaped relatively unscathed this time.
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[ which is a low bar, admittedly. ]
Did you resolve your strings?
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One of my strings told me that "people need simple joys". If that gives you an idea of what I was putting up with.
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I take it that you disagree.
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[Conspicuously: this is not an answer. It is not confirmation. And it is certainly not a "no".]
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